Falling in love is so wonderful. The
future is bright, the present is delicious, and pleasing
one another is effortless. Our dreams have been answered
and we believe this feeling will last forever. By the time
a couple has been married a year or two, however, the state
has usually worn off. The “in-love” feeling is a stage,
and, to our dismay, it expires. Most couples experience
disappointment and puzzlement as they emerge. What’s going
on? Why does life together suddenly seem difficult? Did we
make a mistake?
It can be a great relief to learn that this transition is
completely normal. The real work of building a lasting
relationship begins when the dancing-on-air stage has
ended. We finally get to see what our challenges are and
begin to build an environment that uniquely serves and
supports the two of us.
People are actually quite different in how they see the
world. It is very likely that how you handle time, money,
work, neatness, or intimacy, to name a few categories, will
not match the ways of your partner. Most people grow up
with very little vocabulary or training in how to talk
about differences or build bridges across these
differences.
This is an excellent time for coaching. Coaching can speed
the journey to deeper love, true intimacy, and mutual
understanding and respect. Your primary relationship is
your home and refuge; when it is tended and nourished, the
world is bright once again.
I love to coach couples in the first few years of marriage.
The rewards are tremendous and the benefits ripple out to
enhance the lives of many others.
Contact me for a consultation interview. This
session will give you a taste of coaching and will let
us all see if we are a good match for going forward.